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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"He delivered a message through my mom that he's going to visit but has a lot on his plate right now."

OP, c'mon.  Let that suffice.  He lost his job.  He's living with your mother.  What the hell do you want?  Your daughter is two weeks old, not two years old.  You spend all day every day thinking of her.  He does not.  In fact, no one else is going to except you and your husband.  Ever.

I see absolutely nothing wrong with this situation. Not a thing.  Except you are self-centered.[/quote]

Wow, harsh much, PP? Someone clearly put sour milk in your Cheerios this morning. 
OPs son is 11 weeks old.

It's totally normal to want to have her father share in this joy of having a baby. Children have a way of connecting people that may otherwise be disconnected. I'm guessing OP sees this as a way to reconnect with her mostly absent father. She's not self-centered by a long shot. There are so many complex feelings around this relationship. Parents can treat their kids like crap, and even into adulthood, the child will still long for that parent's approval and love.

OP--it sounds like your dad might be depressed or just not emotionally available for you or your child. Perhaps he's embarrassed. Whatever the reason is, there is nothing you've done wrong. Deep down it might feel like he's rejecting you, but it's not about you, it's about him. Focus on changing your expectations. He's doing the best he can, and if he's not in a place where he can enjoy his grandchild, then that's where he is. Yes, it's sad, but it's his choice. [/quote]

Who cares how old her kid is?  The dad is in crisis.  He's been back in town for "almost two weeks."  I don't see the problem here except with OP's self-centered attitude.  Her baby is not the center of the universe.[/quote]

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