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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]  - First things first: I know it is tough, but you have to calm down, don't panic. Think things through. You feel pressured and rightly so, but you need to take  the time to be the best informed advocate of your parent.

- Contact your local office of aging. Get an appointment. Talk to the social worker there. See what in-home services they can provide your dad IF he were to come home. DO NOT TELL THE HOSPITAL THAT THIS IS AN OPTION!!!

- The hospital should have assigned your dad a social worker, make that person do their job and help you figure out the options available to your dad. Keep in mind that they work for the hospital, so still do not tell them that going  home is even a remote option. Let them TELL YOU what the options are.

- The hospital wants him out, they want his bed. They cannot kick him out if he is immobile and has no where to go and no assurance that he is going somehwere he will get care. You need to make it very clear that he cannot go to your house and cannot go home. 'Your mom is elderly and cannot care for  him'
-  Again: Make the hospital social worker do his/her job

[b]- Apply for medicaid, it is not easy, and your dad needs to basically be flat broke.[/b]

- Some nursing homes will take you medicaid pending
- DO NOT SIGN OVER YOUR PARENTS' HOUSE! That is CRAZYYYY! You need to think of the long term future, your mom needs to have somewhere to live.

- Do not believe the nursing homes regarding your parents' house and assets. They want to get paid. Medicaid cannot take your parents' house, if your mom is living in it.

- I REPEAT: THE HOSPITAL CANNOT KICK OUT YOUR DAD IF HE HAS NO WHERE TO GO TO GET CARE!! 
   BTDT -- and I made them wait, they even wanted my parent out so bad they finally did a psych eval to test his competency, so they could legally release my parent.

- Good Luck!
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Forgot to mention regarding medicaid, your dad cannot start signing over assests, giving money to you or your siblings. Medicaid sees that as fraud and it will disqualify him.[/quote]

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