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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he can withdraw and just keep it to exchanging annual Christmas cards, then I think that's less awkward and always preferable to having a grand finale tell-off in which you announce that you're cutting the other person. I think quietly backing out of the relationship leaves the door open for less dramatic funerals and the like where you're going to run into these people. [/quote]

I agree with this. It seems, well, dramatic to cut off ties, and isn't that what he is trying to get away from?
My sister cut off my father, to end the drama, and it has increased ten fold since no one else cut him off.

Weddings, funerals, holidays, all the talk about "is she coming?" "Is he coming" all the conversations among relatives and phone calls to figure out who is going to be where. It is really hard to cut off parents when there are brothers and sister, cousins, aunts and uncles still in the picture.

If his siblings die, can he go to the funeral? Or if his cousins daughter is terminally ill with cancer and there is a benefit, can he go? There is a 95th birthday blow out for Grandma, how do you deal with that?

Do you have children who have or will have cousins who will still talk to their grandparents? How are these children at 6 and 7 years old going to be explained the situation?

These are all examples of issues that come up with my sister who cut off my father. It has made it a huge burden on the rest of us, and increased the drama and interaction for her more than if she simply sent school pictures and smiles through Christmas dinner. 
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