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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm about to turn 54 and I suddenly feel very sad.  My dh is at the end of the bed doing push ups and Dumbbells.   He's lost weight such that his wedding band keeps flying off.  I on the other hand have all sorts of health issues, keep gaining weight, have abandoned exercise (Heath concerns have interfered), am addicted to refined carbs and weigh 30 lbs too much.   We have an adopted special needs child who is a lot of work although she's a sweet child.   My parents are both deceased.  My work is low pay and deadend.  I have a few masters degrees. I don't have solid friendships   They are more surface relationships.  I'm in therapy.  His and and I are in therapy.  Feeling stuck.  No family.  Any advice from anyone whose been here? I know changing my diet and focusing on my we'll be my would help.  Was supposed to celebrate tomorrow w dinner and a comedy club.  Sitter just cancelled due to death in the family. Subs aren't available.     Deep sigh.   Thanks. [/quote]

I got some great advice on DCUM.  Really changed my life.  It was DCUMers recommending this website, Mark's Daily Apple or MDA, which is about changing your lifestyle to adhere more closely to what your body was designed for--how your ancestors lived; and how that affects your health and sense of wellbeing.  For example, advocating getting enough sleep, and science-backed suggestions for how to bring this about (like, no green or blue artificial light in the room because that adversely affects your brain's release of melatonin).
Here is the philosophy (his words)  :

[i]Our ancestors evolved over millions of years under certain environmental conditions. These conditions (the foods they ate, the amount of sun they got, the sort of movement that was required of them to survive, etc.) shaped their genome. While the world has changed in innumerable ways in the last 10,000 years (for better and worse), the human genome has changed very little and thus only thrives under similar conditions. Simply put, if you want a good future you better listen to the past. And that’s where The Primal Blueprint and Mark’s Daily Apple come in. Showing you how to direct gene expression toward fat burning, muscle building, longevity and wellness, and away from fat storing, muscle wasting, disease and illness.[/i]

and I bookmarked the following link, and read it each day (the topic rotates through the week, so you have to do a full 7 day cycle. Saturday is my least favorite day--recipe day--but Sunday is interesting)
http://www.marksdailyapple.com/#axzz339kbwAql

and the best of all is on Fridays--reader's success stories!  Here's a link to some past ones:
http://www.marksdailyapple.com/category/success-story-summaries/#axzz3gDg9CsiQ

Look I know it sounds a little flip given your situation, but I'm just saying it helped me and a lot of what is discussed in this website I believe can help you, too.  Good luck, OP![/quote]

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