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[quote=Anonymous]I totally agree OP and it can be so frustrating! However, I have learned over the years that you have to do what is right for you, your kids and your family and try as best you can to block or avoid the competitive environments. It might mean not being involved in a as many sports or activities for your kids, but it can mean you are happier and more satisfied in the long run. Your kids may push to do this and that, but remember that you are driving the train. Make the choices that fit best for your schedule and finances and keep in mind that what you don't get from standing on the sidelines for yet another sports game you will make up in family time.

Also, don't fall into the trap of feeling that you are the only one. Trust me when I say that there are plenty of other people who don't want to get caught up, but don't know how to say no and accept that they don't want to "keep up with the Joneses".

My kids are now young adults - one in high school and one in college - and I am so glad that I finally came to my senses and did things the way it worked for us and not from some dictated way that everyone around us was doing. MY DH and I decided we needed to slow it all down and concentrate on building our definition of success and competition. My kids are involved in sports, activities and community service. They are doing well in school, but are not perfect by any stretch. The had their struggles (like all kids do!!!!) and we helped them through. However, they are happy and satisfied with their lives. They still want to hang out with their parents (even my 15 year old son!) and we enjoy our family vacations and our dinners at the table. We have our silly family traditions and inside jokes. I would take that over competing with the kid down the street for grades, spot on the team or place in college any day of the week.

Bottom line - you need to decide how much you are really willing to fall into the trap because that is what it all is! Good luck![/quote]

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