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[quote=Anonymous]About 5 years ago my husband and I attempted a move down to SC to be closer to my parents and sister.  We were married, but had no kids at the time.  My husband was able to transfer his same job down there but at the last minute we backed out and stayed up in the DC area due to my job situation.  I thought I would easily be able to find something but after applying to multiple jobs with no bites I panicked and decided it was too risky at the time given that we were young in our careers and my husband was barely making $60K.  Fast forward to today and we have three kids and are both doing very well in our careers up here.  So well, it would be hard (if not impossible) to move and find jobs like we have currently ever again.

When we initially told my family five years ago that we weren't moving my mom refused to talk to me for two months.  She eventually got over it but lately has been brining it up more and more and just recently erupted and told me that I did not value family and was staying up in the DC area all for monetary reasons.  She went on to say that she doesn't even feel like grandparent because she only sees the kids a few weeks a year and that they're really missing out on all she has to offer and that we should value family over our jobs.  I get that she's hurt, but why the guilt trip?  For the past year every single visit has led to her being emotional about the distance and bitter.  It just makes for very awkward visits and I'm starting to wonder what I should do next.  What would you do in my situation?  [/quote]

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