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[quote=Anonymous]Long distance marriages are really, really hard to work, OP. yes, some couples do it and do it well, but in general, trying to have two separate lives while trying to live as a married unit, is almost impossible.

The "friends and family" thing becomes more complex when you're apart. He's home only for limited time, and like most people, wants to see friends and family during that window. His wife wants to see him, because she's been "running the show" for those weeks and needs a break. The difference comes in expectations of time - he tries to cram as much in while he's home, and she wants just a weekend for things to be "normal".

If he's worried about job prospects, he needs to start considering alternatives or they have to work on that as a couple. If he has any prospects, even "lesser" here, and she has no prospects abroad, then he needs too be home. They've tried living abroad and it didn't work out.

Compromise is everything in a marriage.

It sounds as though this couples life has been in turmoil over his career for years. He needs to choose his perceived "career identity" or the family he created. [/quote]

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