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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our 14yo DD is a great kid, but definitely metamorphosed into an often cranky teenager this past year. Sometimes it seems as though every single interaction we have with her is laced with her sharp-edged tone. Call her name, and she replies "What?!"; ask or remind her to do something, and she cuts us off brusquely with "okay, okay!" and leaves the room while we're still talking; and don't even get me started on her "sorry"s--they are the sorriest and most hostile I've ever heard. I know this all sounds petty, but--wait for it--we never would have spoken to our parents that way.

Do you tolerate this kind back talk from your teens? If not, what is the consequence and--most important--does it work?[/quote]

Mom of a 14 year old who is also a great kid and also engages in rude "teenagery" nonsense here:

A response of "What?!?!" would result in a calm: "Try that again."

Walking away while I'm talking would result in me letting ds go wherever he's going and then about 2 minutes later going to that room and calmly saying, "I need to see your phone. Please give it to me now."  With the phone in hand, I'd then say, "Walking away from me or anyone while they're talking is rude and disrespectful. This phone is mine until tomorrow. If you choose to do that rude behavior again, it will be gone for 2 days." I'd then walk away. NO MORE CONVERSATION.

There's no "Sorry, sorry." You just have to take it away and be done. If you don't and end up giving it back with the "sorry's" then you're dead in the water. My kid never does that "Sorry, sorry, sorry" because he knows I mean business with the consequence. [/quote]

What do you do when DS claims he can't find his phone to give it to you (if its not in his hand).  [/quote]

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