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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mom of a 14 year old who is also a great kid and also engages in rude "teenagery" nonsense here:

A response of "What?!?!" would result in a calm: "Try that again."

Walking away while I'm talking would result in me letting ds go wherever he's going and then about 2 minutes later going to that room and calmly saying, "I need to see your phone. Please give it to me now."  With the phone in hand, I'd then say, "Walking away from me or anyone while they're talking is rude and disrespectful. This phone is mine until tomorrow. If you choose to do that rude behavior again, it will be gone for 2 days." I'd then walk away. NO MORE CONVERSATION.

There's no "Sorry, sorry." You just have to take it away and be done. If you don't and end up giving it back with the "sorry's" then you're dead in the water. My kid never does that "Sorry, sorry, sorry" because he knows I mean business with the consequence. [/quote]

I'm the "drivers license PP".  While you sound more strict than me, I totally agree with the general idea of setting boundaries and consistently following thru with a consequence for behavior.  [/quote]

Yes, I guess I am "strict" but I'm also very attentive to reading the situation. I definitely know how to pick my battles and use humor to diffuse a situation. I don't have to pull the removal of phone very often. It's rare because once you do it and stay consistent, kids know. As I said, he's a great kid and is very well-behaved at school and with adults. And he's a typical teenager who needs to know where the boundaries are. Once they're clear, they know what's okay and what's not. Folks run into trouble when they constantly change those boundaries. [/quote]

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