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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sister is now 33 and desperately wants to get married to her boyfriend of SEVEN years.  She has made this sentiment clear and he has said he also wants to marry her.  Her gave her a soft deadline for when he thought he might propose, he missed it, and she basically let it slide and now just hopes for end of summer.  She has spent most of her "good years" with him and because of this I think she won't leave him.  There relationship is fine... he is sort of bland and not the best person in the world where as I think my sister is just the best.  I think she would leave him if she was 2-3 years younger and move on and find someone better but I think she thinks its too late and wants to get married and have a baby and will just wait it out for him "to be ready" whatever "ready" means.  He is 37 and almost none of his close friends are married s[b]o I don't think he thinks this is weird[/b].  Should I butt out or say some honest things to her?  Do you all think its too late?[/quote]
It is not weird at all. He is not interested in getting married or at least no time soon. Nothing weird about that. The ONLY problem is that your sister, poor thing, thinks she has to sit around and wait for him to want what she wants when she wants it. 33 is not old and even if she was, she DOES NOT want to be in a marriage with someone who did not want it as much as she does. Are you married and/or does she have any married friends?  She is looking at it from a single person, desperate to be married perspective. Let someone who is married explain that it marriage is not some end goal, it is a long, hard run marathon that can bring a lot of joy if you are in it with a partner who is as committed as you are. Otherwise, the desperation she feels now will pale in comparison to being married(and God forbid having kids with) someone who has no real desire to be there. By the way, I got married at almost 40 and so did a lot of my friends. Most of us are glad that we waited for the right partner. [/quote]

Great post![/quote]

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