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[quote=Anonymous]I am JUST like your daughter!  Except I'm 47.  It feels like the end of the world and I still cringe today about some public mistakes I've made even years ago.

And I'm trying not to pass this trait down to my son.   I've taught him from early on that we all make mistakes.  That we even "need" to make mistakes at times, because we can learn from them in ways we don't learn from success.

I think the CBT is a good idea.  I guess I've done a self-help, home version of it myself over the years.  The feelings of embarassment don't go away, but they are manageble because I know "everyone" does these things, and nobody thinks any less of them.

I have also taught my son that when we make a mistake, we immediately come clean and apologize, fix it (if possible), and work really hard not to let it happen again.  In my experience, the mistakes that people "do" remember are the ones that people try to hide or deny.   Those drag on forever.

And you might try modeling how you handle your own mistakes, too, OP.  Show her how you work through the process.   [/quote]

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