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[quote=Anonymous]OP here - thanks for the replies thus far. I realize that without further context, it's hard to understand what I'm talking about. I'm not sure if I can succinctly explain it without going on & on, but here's my attempt at being brief -

By "it's been two years" I meant that I ended the friendship two years ago. For a year, she repeatedly reached out, and I did respond to some of it, trying to answer her remaining questions because I did want her to be able to feel closure and to understand what happened. But I can see with hindsight, that all the claims of ignorance and confusion were just ways to reject my boundaries and keep me engaged. It's like when some one asks "why" you believe what you believe. At first, it's genuine curiosity, but after the 5th time that you've explained yourself clearly, the why is a challenge, not a genuine desire to understand. When it was clear to me we had reached that point, I stopped answering the why's.

That's when she first reached out to my husband, whom she barely knew, told him a variety of sad stories and pleaded with him to intercede on her behalf. At that point, I wrote her, saying exactly what I would need to see from her before considering being friends again. She took a year to respond to that, which was this past week. And this time she called my sister, who my friend hadn't otherwise spoken to for years, with a similar plea. Part of what started the whole tension in the first place was one time when she tricked my mom into divulging something I wasn't going to share yet. At this point, my former friend has directly requested or tricked half my family to give out info about me. I have asked and told her to stop, and she claims to not understand. I don't think she's lying when she says she doesn't get what's wrong with this scenario - I think she's seriously that disconnected from what's normal and healthy. I think she's just gone off the deep end, has a hard time letting go, and feels like she has nothing left to loose in this situation, so she's not listening to that little voice in your head that would otherwise tell you to keep it together.

So I'm warning the rest of my family - already told my dad, who immediately used the word "stalking" which is how I've left, but haven't said it because that sounds so extreme. It's kind of a relief to hear some one else acknowledge how insane it's gotten. I've blocked her from everything I can. I guess if she ever just showed up here, I'd call the police, and until then, I can't do anything, right?[/quote]

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