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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can I just say that I hate this fucking term.  It is condescending.  Those who use it don't want to be associated with those that were somehow "forced" into single motherhood? [b] If we had a failed marriage, at least we got to marriage.[/b]  If we never got married, we chose to be mothers and keep/parent the baby.  Why do you feel the need to make this distinction, what does it gain you?  Can I just say I'm a single mom, and it is my choice.  Every single day, I choose to wake up and be a parent.  We all have choices.  The use of that term judges and diminishes the lives and choices of others.  You are no better or worse than the rest of us.  And let me tell you, I'd rather be a single mom, than a married mom who hates her husband/life, or a mom who gave up or aborted her baby and regrets it (totally pro-choice and pro-adoption, just saying I know I would regret it).  You didn't chose to not find a suitable partner anymore than I did.

So yes, I choose to be who I am just as much as you do.

Rant over.[/quote]

First, that comment was indeed bitchy.  Second, you are really high strung, and taking personal offense to a phrase that is not at all about you.  Third, you choose to be a parent every day?  Really?  What are the alternatives?  Every day you decide whether or not to give your kid up for adoption?  Come on.

Fourth, your premise is just plain wrong.  Many women decide to have children without a partner of any kind.  They choose this BEFORE they have children.  That is different from getting divorced after having kids.  You may indeed have chosen to get divorced and become s single parent (though from the tone of your post, I suspect that someone else made that choice for you), but that's different.  Not better or worse, just different.  Lighten up.  [/quote]

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