Reply to Single Mother by Choice Rant

Forum Index » Parenting -- Special Concerns

Reply to "Single Mother by Choice Rant"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can I just say that I hate this fucking term.  It is condescending.  Those who use it don't want to be associated with those that were somehow "forced" into single motherhood?  [b]If we had a failed marriage, at least we got to marriage.[/b]  If we never got married, we chose to be mothers and keep/parent the baby.  Why do you feel the need to make this distinction, what does it gain you?  Can I just say I'm a single mom, and it is my choice.  Every single day, I choose to wake up and be a parent.  We all have choices.  The use of that term judges and diminishes the lives and choices of others.  You are no better or worse than the rest of us.  And let me tell you, I'd rather be a single mom, than a married mom who hates her husband/life, or a mom who gave up or aborted her baby and regrets it (totally pro-choice and pro-adoption, just saying I know I would regret it).  You didn't chose to not find a suitable partner anymore than I did.

So yes, I choose to be who I am just as much as you do.

Rant over.[/quote]

You lost my sympathy with this piece of bitchiness.

It's descriptive. Most people didn't choose to be a single parent. Some people did.  Those people are in an entirely different circumstance, and telling them that they don't have a right to describe themselves, because it makes you feel insecure, is just weird.

I know a few SMBC and they don't use it to show they're better than other single moms -- they use it to convey that they're not looking for sympathy. Usually when people say "oh, I'm a single mom" they're asking you to cut them some slack or for some kind of help. Nothing at all wrong with that, but I can see how people would want to convey that all is going according to plan and they're not in need of anything. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics