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From a Tiger Parent - your husband is going about it in the worst possible way.

I have high academic expectations for my son (none in the athletic department!), which he is not fulfilling at the moment, because of his ADHD.

Instead of shooting him down all the time for his poor grades, I am actively working to bolster his weaknesses in organizational skills and processing speed, while continuing to challenge him in math and reading, which he is good at. My goal is for all this to come together at a later date. We have years to go and are in the trenches now.

Challenge your husband to look beyond himself and focus on his child's best interests. What he's doing is obviously not good enough (your husband, not your son!). He should see himself as a coach, get down in the trenches and have a long-range plan. Work on certain skill sets, build stamina and technique, encourage your son, be his best helper - which sometimes means saying painful truths, but other times means praising hard work and progress. There needs to be a healthy balance of positive and negative words, and your husband has to make sure that the negatives doesn't come out of his mouth more intensely than the positives. Your son will know if your husband is sincere or not.

Basically what your husband needs is more self-awareness and to help instead of criticize.

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