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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A family member's child, now in middle school, has some disturbing behavior issues both in school and at home but for whatever reason the parents will not have him tested. Another family member recently suggested an "intervention" of sorts because the parents seem to be in complete denial as the child's issues are getting worse. I don't think an intervention is appropriate - i think it would create a new set of problems. 
But i do think that the child's needs should be put first - and this child clearly needs help. I have researched asperger's and ADHD and found that either of these conditions might be present. At least some characteristics of these conditions are fairly evident. But obviously I cannot diagnose this kid! So i was thinking of talking with the parents about addressing some of the symptoms/issues. We are close and i don't want to destroy our relationship but i truly want to help this kid! 
I am feeling so torn about what to do. I am hoping that someone here can help me. Unfortunately the parents are closed to the idea of testing. The school (MCPS) cannot force it. But it is possible they would be open to addressing some seriousBooks  issues  such as major social problems, excessive pacing and hand flapping, physical awkwardness and basic executive function. Any advice, suggestions, guidance is appreciated. I know it is not my child but minding my own business in this case is feeling more and more wrong. My heart is breaking for this kid - he has no friends and no clue how to navigate the world outside of his home environment. So sad and disturbing. Sorry if this rambling. [/quote]

If you think it is ADHD and/or Asperger's, you can give the kid some written resources that might help.  Just give them to him with the caveat, "I know that you don't have X, but this book is aimed at helping people with (whatever problem he is currently having), so I thought it might help, even if you don't have X."

At 13, kids are old enough to choose most of their own reading material, so he can find some info without bugging his parents too much.

Books that might help (they helped me kid with ASD/ADHD):

The Teen's Guide to World Domination:
http://www.amazon.com/Teens-Guide-World-Domination-Awesomeness/dp/0312641540/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1436289574&sr=8-2&keywords=dominate+your+world

Executive Function Workbook:
http://www.amazon.com/Executive-Functioning-Workbook-Teens-Unprepared/dp/1608826562/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1436289689&sr=8-6&keywords=teen+adhd

Social Skills Picture Book
http://www.amazon.com/Social-Skills-Picture-School-Beyond/dp/1932565353/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1436289871&sr=8-3&keywords=social+skills+teen

Asperkid's Secret Book of Social Rules
http://www.amazon.com/Asperkids-Secret-Book-Social-Rules/dp/1849059152/ref=pd_sim_14_12?ie=UTF8&refRID=1KGDQ327K5MXR115KQHH

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