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[quote=Anonymous]Last year I reconnected with my ex-father and mother in law. I have had a rocky relationship with my ex for years now, due to some violence in our marriage and some drug issues, which led to our divorce five years ago. I have full custody of our two sons, ages 15 and 13. Their father will occasionally visit with them, but generally stays out of their life.

Anyway, two years ago my ex-parents in law reached out to me, saying that they wanted a relationship with their only grand kids, so we started getting together every once and a while. Around a year ago, I started letting grandma and grandpa supervise the kids after school, as a single parent I thought it would be helpful to know that the kids were being supervised and the kids loved spending time with their grandparents.

Anyway, the problem is that both ex-in laws are quite obese and eat incredibly unhealthily. Always have, but lately it has started to effect my kid' seating habits. I always cook dinner and we have a sit down dinner at my house, but it's becoming common that grandma or grandpa took them to the drive through, or for Chinese food, or simply just fed them lots of snacks, and my kids will announce they are not hungry. To make matters worse, I often invite the ex-in laws over for this meal, and they often, no matter what they ate previously, will eat a second dinner, which is a bad example to set if you ask me.

I've tried to talk to the I laws, but whenever I try and bring up anything related to weight they get incredibly defensive. I mean I know they have always had an awful relationship with food, but I am at the end of my rope.

Thing is, I have noticed how my DSs have changed over the year, and especially the older son has gained a noticeable amount of weight. I don't want them to lose their relationship with their grandparents, but I am about at the point where I'm going to have to end the after school visits unless DCUM has any ideas to address this problem.[/quote]

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