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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL has terminal lung cancer and only has several months left.  She lives in a different state and we have been visiting her every month not knowing when she will take a turn for the worse, but I never know what to say to her when we leave or even while we are there.  Both DH and I just say "hang in there".   We aren't all that close (as in I've never really considered her my second mother)  but she has become part of my family and her eventual passing is hitting be harder than I thought it would especially after losing both my parents within the past 5 years.

[b]I really want to tell her that she raised a wonderful son and that we all love her very much, etc.[/b] but it just seems so hard and I never know when the appropriate time is to do this is and I'm worried that I might lose my chance to let her know how much she means me and our family.  I'm not even sure I can say these words to her without choking up myself.

It was very different when my parents passed - my father from Alzheimer's so I never go the chance to say anything to him at the end, and my mother's passing was much quicker but she was incoherent the last week when we realized it was the end for her so this is all new to me.

Anyone have any words of advice or words of wisdom?

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Please get over your hesitation and tell her this, then (what I've bolded above).  Just do it.  You won't regret it and you'll give her a measure of peace.  If you can do a good thing at this time, do it.  If you choke up, no matter.  That's fine.  These are emotional times, but nothing to be afraid of.  I didn't get the chance to say goodbye to my grandmother and I wish I had the chance to tell her what she meant to me.[/quote]

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