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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.  He is stressed out about work and I can understand why he's thinking that a couple of hours at the office out of the long weekend is not a big deal, because he has four days off.  So a few hours out of four days seems like no big deal to him.

But here's his history: "I want to do fun stuff with the kids.  I don't want to miss out.  Why do you get to do fun stuff with the kids?"  Well, I get to do fun stuff with the kids because (1) I make plans to do so and (2) I execute those plans.  I am flexible enough that I can decide that if my ideal scenario is three hours at the office on Saturday morning, I can adjust my thinking and understand that three hours on Sunday afternoon would be fine as well, and would mean that the rest of the family doesn't have to limit their plans to fit around my fixed idea.

This is the same person who says "I need to spend more one on one time with [kid]" but never, ever makes an effort to do anything along those lines, but gets resentful when I do because then he's missing out.  The net result: whole family misses out because he doesn't want to.  
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