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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My friend divorced her ex when her kids were two and three. They don't remember their parents being married. Both she and her ex are remarried. They mostly speak to each other fairly well. Her new husband and her ex have strained relationships since her two kids by the second husband are a bit of a pain to her ex. Every time he comes to visit they annoy him. Plus his kids, who are now teens, complain a lot to him about one of their step siblings, one in particular. That kid is not easy, he is truly annoying.

Now this summer, the ex husband planned a hiking trip to the Sierras I believe. It is one of those outdoorsy trips with back packs and so on. He is really good at that kind of thing and has experience. My friend did many of those trips with him when they were married.

Friends second husband is not able to venture out and do that kind of thing. Let's leave it at a fairly serious disability that makes camping an impossible event.

When my friend heard that her ex was taking her kids to the mountains, she reacted with a bit of envy. She has not been out camping in forever and wanted to go. Her ex offered to take her along (his new wife would not be there). The point of the trip originally was for the ex to have time with his kids [i]alone[/i], but the kids actually want their mother there for two reasons. One, I think, is to live the fantasy for one week that their family is back together intact. Two, is that their father is strict and the mother defuses things nicely. The ex even suggested that the tolerable step sister come along with them.

My friend's current husband is not happy. Obviously, he realizes his limitations WRT travel and outdoor activities. Second, the rejection of his troublesome child was hurtful. Third, the threat to his marriage. I don't see my friend as the type to cheat, and neither does her husband, but I know that her ex husband still loves her. He has always given her whatever she wants.

[b]Want to stay out of it, but second husband asked me what I think![/b] I wish I could say that he had nothing to worry about, but my friend is beyond enthusiastic about this trip. I find it inappropriate, but I know that she will never have another chance to be with her kids like this. Plus the experience of camping is something she misses. [/quote]

That's a tough spot.  I would not advise or say what he or his wife should do.  In similar situations, I would state what MY reaction to the situation would be.  
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[i]"I would not appreciate my wife going on a trip with her ex."[/i]  [/b]

But do your best to play Switzerland on this one. [/quote]

Because you are afraid that they will rekindle their relationship? That's crazy. They are divorced for a reason.  Taking a vacation with the kids is not a time to get it on, anyway. [/quote]

They may not rekindle their relationship, but sex with the ex is fairly common.
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