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[quote=Anonymous]I understand where you're coming from, OP.  There's no right or wrong answer.

My DS was much like your DD as a baby, and it took us a long time to even consider the idea of having a second.  I remember many of our friends getting pregnant again when DS was about 1.5, and we talk to each other, "Are they CRAZY?"  We were just finally sleeping through the night and so happy to have reflux and allergies under control with our DS.

Fast forward to about 2.5, and I was really ready to have another, even kicking myself for not trying sooner.  It took us about 6 months to get pregnant, which felt like forever.  Now I'm expecting #2 and genuinely excited about it.  Sure, I'm irritated by the thought of going back to sleepless nights and infant crying, but I'm also excited to expand our family and have another child.

I wouldn't do it unless you feel this way.  You might have a few doubts, and that's normal, but you should generally want another child if you decide to try to conceive one.  I know it happens by accident for many, and that's fine, but if you are considering it a decision, I would definitely wait until you feel ready and desirous.  You might be surprised by how fast this changes for you!

As for the situation with your friends, I wouldn't rush it just for that reason.  I definitely feel that a sense of community pushed me to want to have our second because my very good friend was trying to get pregnant at that time, and suddenly, we were surrounded by a lot of families with multiple kids (whereas it had been mostly single kids before that).  If you're already around that and still not feeling totally ready to take the leap for #2, give it more time.  You can't wait forever, but you also don't need to rush into it.[/quote]

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