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[quote=Anonymous]My DD just turned 2.5 and I am feeling so torn about whether or not we want to have another. I always imagined having 2 (DH and I both have siblings we're close to now)... but after DD was born everything was just so much harder than we anticipated. She was colicky, reflux, didn't sleep forever. And now as a toddler she continues to be challenging with tantrums, being a picky eater, extremely clingy and more. That said - things have finally gotten so much better with her and we're really enjoying her and our little family, and I just can't imagine going back to square one with a newborn, especially if the new baby is as tough as DD.

I know we could wait... but unfortunately time isn't on my side. I will be 36 in a couple months and DH is turning 38. We worry potential health concerns the longer we wait, who knows how long we will be trying, plus we're just getting older and more tired. The other thing, which I know is selfish... is that I was the last of most of my friends to have a baby, so most have 2-3 kids already and their younger ones are DDs age. So I feel like I don't want to be the only one with an infant again when things are just starting to get fun with activities all together (we were excluded for so long when we didn't have kids).

Lastly... I am terrified of sibling fighting since both DH and I are 3.5/4 years apart from our siblings, and fought like cats and dogs growing up. Neither of us were close to our siblings until we were in our 20s (now we are very close). As kids, my mom had to separate my sister and I quite often due to fighting and said it made her miserable for most of our childhood. So, this is another big consideration as I know the fighting would drive me insane.

Has anyone else had a difficult first and felt this way? Did you go on to have a 2nd or call it quits at 1? I know there's no right or wrong here, but don't want to regret not having a 2nd before it's too late.[/quote]

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