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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a son, 7, with ASD/ADHD and he has friends even a best friend.  Does you son have an IEP/504?  My son has to be taught social cues and "how to be a friend" explicitly like how he is taught math.  Our public school and his teachers have been teaching him since prek4 when he entered school and got his diagnosis.

There are lots of things the school can do to help with social issues.  In fact, all of my son's IEP goals involve social communication not academics (where he has no issues).

You can have one-on-one play dates as has been suggested but your son with be best served with direct social instruction.  Does your school have a school counselor?  At our school, the counselor runs social skills classes as well as the SLP.[/quote]

I know you mean well and your advice is solid, however it overlooks two things:  one, you kid has an astonishingly large and unusual amount of free social lessons year after year.  This is unlikely to be replicated to this extent and solve the problem (esp as kids get older, schools aren't going to do that if kid is meeting academic targets and curriculum as "accessed."

Two, some ADHD kids' quirks are just more socially appealing than other quirks.   Your kid may have friends and even a best friend because he doesn't lick his classmates' faces or sit on his classmate.  Some ADHD kids I know personally have overwhelming and uncontrollable impulse to do this sort of social pariah stuff  -- other hallmark ADHD things which are MUCH more socially acceptable among peers -- like blurt out answers to the teacher or get up during a lesson without permission.

IME, 5-8 year old boys are a lot more forgiving of -- and even celebratory over -- some ADHD traits than others.    Think about whether your son has an uncontrollable urge to put his fingers in his neighbors nose, for example.  [/quote]

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