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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Odds are a separation would lead to divorce.  Separations get very tricky quickly when one or both are still holding out hope.  For instance, how would you feel if he saw other women in the new city while separated from you? If he had a steady girlfriend? The baggage that might be introduced to your relationship during a separation might very well be the end of the relationship eventually even if you got back together after the separation.[/quote]

I've considered this. However, our day-to-day life is so stressful and I panic about moving and starting over with our marriage in the state it's in.[/quote]

PP here.  You definitely should NOT move.  What you might have to accept is the possibility that your marriage is over if you are in such turmoil over living in the same city as your husband.  You should go into the separation with a focus on yourself -- you sound weary -- and doing the work you learned in counseling.  You have to be ready, however, for the likelihood that your marriage might not emerge intact, rather than seeing a separation as a cure for your marital woes.  If your husband is unwilling to work hard in counseling now, being in a new city and separated from you may very well not make him more willing and may in fact give him the perfect opportunity to give up and look elsewhere.  Be ready for that.[/quote]

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