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[quote=Anonymous]I was in this position myself and am now 12 weeks pregnant with #2.  My DC1 is 3 years old.

We also had a really rough transition with DC1 -- reflux, allergies, hard time BFing, no sleep, very needy baby, etc.  As others have noted, I was really worried about everything and didn't let myself relax or enjoy it.  I had PPD and developed anxiety about every little thing that went wrong.  I was so relieved when DC started sleeping through the night at 15 months and started communicating with me more.  I wasn't ready to even CONSIDER doing the newborn stage again.

But around 2.5, I started really wanting to try for a second.  Now I'm pregnant and exhausted and nauseous, and it's hard dealing with this and my 3 year old!  But I'm excited about having #2 and really feel like I'm much more relaxed and prepared this time, and able to let little things go.

Although I mourn the idea of losing one-on-one time with DC1, I also can see how much a sibling would be good for him.  He loves babies and treats our dog almost like a sibling (including trying to hit her and complaining about her sometimes).  I see the sibling relationships that a lot of his friends have and know it will be good for him and for us.

There's no right or wrong, and there's no problem with choosing to have one instead of more (I'm an only child!).  I'm not sure you will ever be "ready" to take the leap, but I can tell you that I definitely started to feel REALLY desirous to get pregnant by the time we started trying.  It took 6 months, and those were LONG months because I felt so ready to have a second![/quote]

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