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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The next time one of the other BILs or SILs start to tell you about how they dissect or bash you, stop them from talking and say "You know, I don't really want to hear it. If someone has a problem with me they should say it to my face, just like I'm doing right this second. I don't want to hear gossip." Then walk away. They should be shamed into shutting up.

I wouldn't bother with the SIL - she seems catty and unlikely to change. If you must, speak with the MIL face to face, with nobody else around (or DH but only if he'll back you) and say "Sue, I've been consistently hearing that there are rumors going around the family about me. I really like to be direct and don't enjoy gossiping about people or hearing people are gossiping about me. I really hope you and I have the warm relationship I thought we did ...?"

Maybe MIL is just entertaining SIL but rolling her eyes behind her back when SIL talks shit about you? Who knows.

Be the bigger person. Always. [/quote]

Yep, this.

You don't want to get into it with angry SIL--and you really don't want to know the details of the conversation.[/quote]

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