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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your DH seems quite passive.  If he doesn't like his family dynamic, HE needs to be more proactive.  Does he volunteer ideas for activities for everyone to enjoy: hey, Kids & I are headed to mini golf/hunt for seashells/go snorkeling - wanna join us?  Or does he sit around wondering why he's not invited to anything?  If you're not going, it is a little odd for you to jump in to try & fix this on DH's behalf.  At most, I would send a note to say your kids would like some quality time w/ grandma or aunt & list some ideas for activities you know they'd enjoy: I'll be stuck at work that week, but I'd love to treat you & the kids to ice cream/bowling/whatever.

Also, you haven't said how old your kids are and how old your nieces/nephews are.  If SIL doesn't have kids or her kids are much older/younger, maybe MiL/SIL are doing things that aren't age appropriate for your kids (spa/ mani-pedi/ etc).[/quote]

OP here.  I am considering doing this before the trip, naming specific activities that the family does without DH, that I know he is hurt by.  Also, I know the older cousins are available to watch the younger children, though DC are just about old enough to be by themselves.  It is that street I worry about.  I do not know why DH does not say something, perhaps he is afraid of them, which is difficult for someone like me to understand.  I was taught to stand up for myself and those I love; I suppose that is why I am stepping in here.  I think DH's family is perhaps not that nice.

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