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[quote=Anonymous]I will try to be succinct.  MIL and SIL are rude and plan activities together.  They have plenty of vacations together, but there is also an extended family vacation for one week during the summer, where everyone is invited.  DH likes to attend because (you guessed it) he is disregarded the rest of the year.  They live less than twenty minutes from us, and are not really involved with the children, etc. - but they are/were with each other.   So ideally, they would suck it up and include DH in their activities during the vacation they invited him on.

I don't usually attend, because I don't feel that welcome (we don't fight, we just don't have anything in common, and they don't bother talking to anyone outside of the birth family).  DH won't speak up, but I was thinking of asking them ahead of time to include our family as part of their own.  They actually don't even tell DH where they are sitting on the beach, they just take his beach umbrella and take off for the day.  DH is minding our children (since I don't attend, and they don't bother with anyone but themselves).  The beach is on a busy highway, and I worry every year, because I saw a family member almost get killed by a 60 mph truck (no exaggeration, it happened right in front of me and a bunch of people trying to cross the highway).  I also worry about the beach they go to, but that is another story.  DH will go, and I don't want to spend my time try to dissuade him - he is going.  What I want to do is try to have them take part.  Is this hopeless?  They are the type of family where it is all about them (weddings, funerals, what have you) - and I just wan tot make it a simple request that they can not try to turn around.  They really like to do that!  I guess some responses here could be spun against me, too.  :)  But instead, is there anything I can do to make this a more enjoyable experience?  I feel strongly about my children not feeling left out, as they get older.  Another issues is that we have so little vacation time, seemingly less and less every year, so I want it to be a positive experience; not an "a-hole contest".  Thank you for any constructive insight.  I dread this for them every year, but I really do not want them to know that.  [/quote]

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