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[quote=Anonymous]Re: enabling family members. I can say in my experience, which is sadly extensive, there's a hierarchy of "enablers" in the family. Imagine a pile. The people at the top are the people who are never expected to help or can easily turn a blind eye and pretend nothing is happening. It's easy for them to say "don't help, stop enabling." They're not expected to help and they know the people who are are still below them as options. The further you go down the pile, the harder it gets to just say "cut them off." When you're at the rock bottom of the pile, you're their rock bottom person. It falls to you to ultimately do the cutting off. Nobody above you really mattered because it all always fell to you anyway. And it is heartbreaking. Anyone who thinks it's as easy as just not helping has never been the rock bottom person. [/quote]
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