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[quote=Anonymous]OP, is there an adult he knows well and trusts who is NOT you or dad, whose guidance on this might actually get through to him? Often, kids can hear tough things from a trusted adult who is not a parent much better than they can hear them from their parents. If he is involved in any activities, is there a leader, coordinator, coach, youth group leader, anyone whom [u][i]you[/i][/u] trust to talk with him and not turn him off, make him defensive or alienate him? That's a very tall order, I know, and this person would need to be one with a lot of tact, if addressing the weight directly -- or some smart tricks, such as suggesting that your son and other kids from that activity/church/group etc. get together to work out all summer, etc., without mentioning your son's weight specifically. It would be up to you and this adult to talk first about how best to approach your son.

A favorite uncle or other relative might be a choice for this too. It might help your son to have a workout partner for the summer who then takes him out for healthy snacks after exercising. Would your son balk at a summer gym membership and see it as a criticism of him, or would he actually get interested and go? Maybe not, based on what you wrote above, but if he had someone going with him, would he be likelier to see it as social time?

Eating is a big part of socializing for many teens, maybe most of them. They genuinely are hungry after school but have no sense of portions or proportions, unfortunately. I see it with my DD and her friends as well, and yes, girls wolf down food as eagerly as boys at this age. But a lot of it is mindless, social eating, and nobody wants to be the one who sticks out in the group by not joining in or by having to answer questions about why he or she ate two burgers last time and isn't doing the same today....[/quote]

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