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[quote=Anonymous]We are big into logical consequences and we have struggled with finding the appropriate way to deal with low grades w/ ADHD.  In this situation, I have always worked to find and address the underlying cause. My ADHD kid gets oppositional when he is frustrated because he can do the work intellectually, but is blocked by executive functioning limits.  I would start by talking to her teacher and getting a good handle on why her grades are low.

1.  Is her ADHD a properly controlled?  That is, is her medication right?  (If she isn't on medication, it may be time to start).  My DS gets really oppositional when he forgets his meds.  If her grades are that low, but she is smart enough to do the work, she  may need a med adjustment.  Not really her fault, and a "punishment" isn't going to help.

2.  I'd she in a class that is too tough for her?  Also, not her fault.  But, she may need remediation, to take a less rigorous course next in the sequence, to retake at a less rigorous level (Gen Ed, not honors) next yeaR or this summer.  The teacher should be able to suggest.

3.  Can she do the work, but has issues with turning in completed homework, making careless mistakes on tests, following directions for large assignments?  She may need an organizational tutor or study skills class.

4.  Is she getting distracted and, for example, playing Minecraft and blowing off homework (my DS !)  The consequence may be to remove the distraction (no kindle until homework is done).

+100 on an evaluation by a good psychologist (not a pediatrician) to tease out what is going on because ADHD a often comes with "friends" like anxiety or depression.  Certainly consider a neuropsych eval, if you don't have one.  And definitely counseling for any issues id'd by the psychologist.  ADD often has a lot of moving parts.

Remember, bright women can often compensate for ADHD really well. But each year, demands increase, and things get a little more out of control.  She may have just reached her tipping point. Good Luck!

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