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[quote=Anonymous]It's hard to know for sure what to advise with just the information you've given. It's not unusual for kids at this age to be oppositional and resistant to help from their parents. This is probably even more true for SN kids, since there's nothing worse at the teen/preteen age than feeling different from one's peers.

My child has ADHD too and was very resistant to any attempts DH or I made to help at this age. She'd get a D or E on a test but refuse all offers we made to help her prepare for the next test so she could do better. She'd insist she knew what she was doing and cry or yell if we suggested she could benefit from extra support. She complained bitterly when we proposed having her evaluated, and she groused constantly when we brought up the possibiity of having her work with a tutor or go to her teachers for extra help. We didn't know what to do.

Fast forward into high school, with her grades continuing to drop. We insisted she be tested, and sure enough the report came back with inattentive ADHD. I think the combination of the test report spelling out the problems in black and white, coupled with DD's becoming more mature, has made things easier. DD still grumbles but accepts tutoring. She is still sensitive whenever we suggest she needs to work harder to bring her grades up, however most times now she will pitch a 2 minute "mini-fit" about it and then buckle down and apply herself. It's a step in the right direction at least.

I guess what I'm saying is that the situation with your child is a process, so don't despair as it will probably get better as she matures. I'd suggest a natural consequence for your situation. Have her work with a tutor to bring up the grade. Also agree that you need to understand what caused the D -- was it failing to turn in homework (common with ADHD kids) or was it bombing certain tests or assignments? Once you know this you can plan the type of tutoring and support accordingly.

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