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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]These details no not matter. You have got to understand that your decisions are not being respected, or you're not being clear or decisive enough - and this pattern will just keep repeating over and over re: all kinds of different issues.

First of all - you need to discount anything you hear second hand. "Your Father thinks ..." blah blah. If Father doesn't say it to you, discount it. It might be made up (maybe to manipulate you) or he mentioned it in passing during a private conversation (which she has no place to mention to you - and the emphasis/weight you should give it can't be judged)

Next - set boundaries. No reason you need to be immediately available for texts/calls. Ignore or don't read them. You decide a time (when you feel strong and can deal) to call her back. End the conversation when she starts to badger you.

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Oh believe me, I've been clear and decisive.

She loves to rewrite history. She will completely pretend conversations didn't happen. Or you will agree upon something and a week later I'll get a call criticizing me for something I apparently didn't do, didn't do when she wanted or how she wanted and when I remind her of the conversation she claims we never talked about it or not about it that way. It's total BS.

I have seriously marveled at the incredible amount of drama she can create. Without her I live a drama free life - it's wonderful.  My Mom, however, has a Facebook battle with someone just about every other week or wants to complain about some lady in her bridge group or about my sibiling. She tries to get me to criticize my inlaws. She criticizes my sibling's inlaws. It just never stops. Several of her life-long friends have stopped talking to her and cut her off.

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