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[quote=Anonymous]I get so frustrated with my parents. They are very demanding and no matter what we do they are constantly critical/unhappy with the amount of time we devote to them.

Both my sibling and I are married and have children - two working parent families.

We live a 4 hour drive away without traffic. On summer weekends it has taken up up to 8 hours one way to get there.  My sibling lives 30 minutes away from our parents.

My family is moving to a new home at the end of June so we are eyeball deep in packing, arranging home repairs, etc.

Yesterday my sibling and I get a text from Mom saying that she/Dad are disappointed in us that we are "not interested" in visiting Dad for Father's Day.

I was like - here we go again. She loves to lob in big jabs by text and then flounce.

I responded by saying that I was sorry they were feeling hurt and I was positive that neither of us was "not interested" in seeing Dad, but that as she knows we are moving 4 days after Father's Day so we're not in a position to be away for the weekend before the move. I reminded her that as we had previously discussed, we would be visiting in July for Dad's birthday weekend.

Her response was "not coming says it all".

My sibling will be out of town that weekend. We have already coordinated and purchased a very nice joint Father's Day gift for my Dad that he will really like.

I'm so sick of having to defend myself to my parents and deflect numerous unreasonable demands.

If your Father's b-day was in July...would you visit in person for both Father's Day in June and go again a few weeks later in July for the birthday?  Am I just a terrible daughter (as she tells me)?

I'm not even factoring in that we are literally moving four days after Father's day - which she apparently thinks is a poor excuse not to travel.

It's to the point that anytime I get a text from Mom now I get a feeling of anxiety and dread in the pit of my stomach. I don't even like to call now because everything is a verbal beating.

Part of me feels like saying that if you are unhappy with the effort we are making, we can certainly make no effort at all if you'd prefer that....I'm just so frustrated.....

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