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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She is lucky that you seem to have a sense of humor about it. :-)[/quote]

I have my days.  That day I just managed to refuse to give her any real reaction.  My mother is the type of person who says something that she knows is hurtful/bothersome, and then if you don't react, she decides to relentlessly repeat herself until you do give her a reaction.  I've asked her about it, and she says she can't help it.   :roll:   I think it's subconscious, like she's thinking "Hey.  I called her fat.  She must not have heard me!  She might not know that she's fat!  How will she ever lose weight if she doesn't know that she's fat?  I have to try again!"  On the other hand, at one point she said something, and I gave her a look, and she collapsed into mischievous, mean girl giggles.  So there's that.[/quote]

Just curious, OP: Have you ever tried what my friends in England would call the "short, sharp shock"? Just turned on her suddenly and said, "I AM counting, and that is the fifth time you've said the word 'fat' to me today, either about me, an article of clothing, or another person. So mom, are you saying I am fat? Yes or no. Go."
Said not in anger but calmly and very firmly. And you look at her expectantly and don't speak another word until she answers. She will squirm.

I've seen it shut down a relative of mine who was a lot like your mom. Didn't change that person's snarkiness or digs permanently, no! But it shut that person down for the day at least. Of course the shutdown can come along with some "Well, I'm sooo sorry" huffiness, but then you just change the topic. Every. Single. Time.

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Unless your mom say "geez, you're so sensitive, not everything is about you" or some other deflecting nonsense[/quote]

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