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[quote=Anonymous]Long story short: generations of family dysfunction. I was literally the only one to break free and create a good life for myself and children. The children are now all in college so the nest is empty.

The great news is that I love the empty nest. I'm dating, able to go away for romantic weekends, and I've made strides professionally.

There's a soon to be 13 yo cousin who's been abandoned by her mom since birth. The grandmother who had custody seriously bungled raising her own 4 (who includes the cousin's deadbeat mom). All 4 are felons, not one diploma between them....

The little cousin seems like a sweet girl when I'm around. But she clearly has anger issues--fighting in school, always suspended, even assaulted a teacher. She did something to her grandmother (cussed at or hit her), so she sent her to live with her sister. Well, the sister's not too much better as she seems to always and obviously favor her young daughter over the niece.

The poor kid would do well to be away from all the negativity and chaos. I live several hours away in total peace and quiet. That's part of my concern. I can't have my workday interrupted with calls from school about fighting.

Chances are she may turn over a new leaf once removed from the dysfunction, poverty and uninhabitable living conditions.

I also selfishly want to finally enjoy living for me now. I also worry about finances. I have 2 kids in college and make too much for any type of assistance. And I know the bio mother and grandmother won't provide support. On the other hand, how expensive can she be?

Debating: Take in the cousin or continue to keep my life as stress free as possible?

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