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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 13yr DD has a "special friend"  her words,  they don't hold hands, kiss etc...  he just asked her if she wanted to go out.  What ever that means at 13.  Any way, I read a text from him and it said " Sean said you want it hard", her answer was that is gross.  And then he said she was beautiful, blah blah blah.  WTF!  I want to confront both the boys, the one that said this and the one that texted this.  I am not about boyfriends at 13, but I do know that in school I am not in control.  I have talked with her plenty about boys and hormones and respect...what would you do.  I am boiling mad![/quote]

I would leave Sean out of this, unless he is also sending explicit texts.

There are a couple of red flags for me, mom of a 17-year-old and a 12-year old (both boys). Two things are problematic for the rules in my house.

1. I have three rules about sex that I have drilled into my older son:  Always wear a condom. No mean no, and drunk means no. Sex is a [b]private[/b] thing between two people.

2. I have one rule about the internet/electronics: There is no privacy. There is no privacy on texting or emailing or messaging. Anything can be read by ANYONE. So sending sexually explicit information this way is inappropriate (because sex is a private thing, see above).

I would sit down to have a chat with DD, telling her that I am glad that she responded in an appropriate, non-explicit way. Not because sex is gross but because sexually explicit texts are not private and therefore are inappropriate. So hooray for her for being so smart and savvy.

Then I would tell her that it's a big problem that Friend is apparently not aware that there is no privacy in texting. It's a problem for her, because he has shown that he doesn't seem to want to protect her privacy, and it's a problem for him because he could get himself into big trouble. So as suggested above, I would be immediately contacting Friend's parents to let them know about this text. And I would also send a text back to the boy along the lines of, "This is Larla's mother. Sexually explicit texts are inappropriate."[/quote]

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