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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If her father legally adopted her -- then he is her father.  Her bio dad has no legal right to "change his mind and become part of her life."  He has no relationship to her, legal or actual.[/quote]

I definitely agree with this, but if her bio dad knocked on the door tomorrow I would have to let him see her. Legality aside, if he wanted to talk to her, I would have to consider it. I wouldn't want her to find out years later and be angry at me. I just don't think that he will ever be the active or consistent figure he said he would be. It's very sad. Her step-dad is phenomenal, and she does call him dad. He is just so wonderful in every way. No matter what, I will always worry about this, though.[/quote]

No you don't. Even if he didn't sign off on his parental rights, letting him back in would be detrimental. After a period of time of no contact it's called abandonment. He's already gone one step further than that and signed his name.

You don't owe this man a second of your time. You DO owe it to your daughter to protect her in every sense you can. You'd be ok with him breezing through town once every few years, making a mess of her head and leaving you to clean up the mess with therapy? Because I sure wouldn't.

Besides... I think you're putting time into entertaining something that'll never happen anyway. If he wanted to be there, he would have been there. [/quote]

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