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[quote=Anonymous]I think when it comes to organizing get together that involve kids, the mom is the logistics coordinator/keeper of the schedule for most families.  So even if your DH is the more outgoing one, I think it would fall on you for the follow-up. My DH is pretty involved with the kids and both of us are friendly with the other parents at soccer.  This year we had done more of the divide and conquer versus both of us going to every soccer game for both kids.  DH told me, hey, you need to go to the younger daughter's games because that is where all the play dates and sleepover plans are happening among the moms.  I went to the next game and our daughter got included in last minute play date plans and another we ended up with last minute sleepover plans.

Now talking couples friendships, that is a lot trickier because both spouses on both sides have to get along well. I don't know if you ever watch King of Queens but I think there was an episode where Carrie and Doug try to find the perfect couple to be their friend to replace Deegan and Kelly that was really funny highlighting the problem with both spouses on both sides agreeing.  Usually, but not always, I think one person becomes good friends thru work outside activities, college, etc and then pulls in the spouses and if the spouses click they become couples friends.  If your DH is the more outgoing one, the answer may be that he finds good guy friends and when there are superbowl parties or socializing with other families you are friendly.  You don't have to be best buds with the spouses. It just can't be awkward and has to be enjoyable enough that the DH's friend's spouse would rather socialize all together than suggest to that she be left out of the mix.  I think of a relative by marriage that it is like pulling teeth to get her to answer a conversational question, usually one word answers and never asks us any follow up questions.  I am left with the impression that she doesn't like us.  I am also assuming she isn't like this with her friends and family.  If someone that was a potential couples friend was the same way, I would choose not to do couples things with them.  We don't have a choice about family but we do with friends.[/quote]

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