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[quote=Anonymous]In my case, I was the kid who lived 2000 miles away.  After my mom passed away, I took on the emotional support role for my dad and, after he was diagnosed with Early onset Alzheimer's a few years later, I coordinated the clinical trials  and much of the doctors care.  He made me medical power of attorney and gave all the medical providers and insurance authorization to talk to me so I could deal with much of that.  Of course, when there was a crisis (e.g. Detached retina and he forgot to hold his head in place so it redetached), I had to wait for the next plane ride, but I was there the next day until we could get a caregiver in to watch him.  My sibling who was local handled much of the day to day logistics, all the financial issues and house care things.  When he eventually had to move into assisted living, we both toured and chose the facility.

We had to put aside old resements and issues to work together as a team.  It wasn't seamless, but we became much closer and remain that way today.  It sucks being far away, but really it sucks being close by as well.  The best advice I can give is to talk honestly with your sibs about what role you CAN play given your location and be prepared to revisit it as situations change.  [/quote]

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