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[quote=Anonymous]we have lived in DC for a while, but moved here mid career so no college friends here nor 1st job friends (unattached 20 years working together there build friendships at happy hour and after work, seems like a way people start out friends here).

we are a little atypical couple on that the DH is very outgoing and involved in kids activities and dw is more introverted (though even more involved in kids activities and school).

But we noticed that we don't seem to make any deeper friends with families we meet, even if we invite them to dinner or to meet at a park. We see no reciprocation. We recognize we may be boring, but also wonder if our dynamic is off. Most out families we see together it's generally the moms friendship bringing the families together; coordinating and socializing, and the moms will often meet individually (moms lunch!). DH friendships tend to
be just the men meeting for golf or poker or sports.

So our question is this; since the parent in our family that is more likely to initiate friendship is the DH but generally it's the moms who are at kid events and such (we almost never see the dads), will that be a barrier to making family friendship? I mean DH in our family really can't meet one of our DC's moms alone for lunch but the other families dad is always working. The coordinating between the moms that goes in a shook or group or just he chit chat; do they feel uncomfortable if a dad dives in or does it feel out of place or like the dad is flirting by being friendly? You know the Harry met Sally - men and women can never be friends; does that apply to moms and dads?

Hope this makes sense, trying to see why we feel like square pegs here. [/quote]

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