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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I would say no.

This was between your parents.  It's not fair of your mom to have involved you.  It brought you into a triangle between the two of them, and divided your loyalties and your trust.  It poisoned your relationship with your father.  And you don't know what her "evidence" was.  Women come on DCUM every day with "evidence" of affairs that is frankly, ridiculous.  He hugged her.  She calls him about work.  He smiles at her in the elevator.

Your mother was wrong to involve you in this, and then leave you hanging.  The fact is, she did not divorce your father.  They stayed married.  Their relationship may have seemed unhappy to you and this conversation somehow "explained" that but that's an easy way to somehow make sense of complex past events, which are rarely caused by simple factors.

Let it go, OP.  The only thing you can do by bringing this up to your father is further poison your relationship with him, put him on the defensive, and alienate him.  And perhaps poison his memories and grieving process.  Are you sure you want to do that?  Really?[/quote]

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