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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]But the whole reason I bring this up is that people need to understand it's hard (pardon the pun), really hard to have sex if you aren't aroused. I think there's a misconception that it's like giving a foot massage or scratching a back -- it's not.[/quote]

OP, I got taken to task on one of the LD vs. HD threads a while back for saying that sex should never be coerced or pressured. The counter argument is that forcing celibacy is "just as bad" as pressuring someone to have sex when they don't want to. I completely disagree that it's "just as bad." For the people who say, "just give blowjobs" I also disagree. Have you ever given someone a blowjob when you didn't want to?

I don't think that sex should be coerced. I don't think that it should be withheld and not discussed. If my partner does not want to have sex, he tells me and we talk about it. I get that it's a hard needle to thread, when people's desire levels are very different, but I do not think that coercion or pressure is ever an acceptable answer and if my husband said "You don't feel like having sex, so how about you just give me a BJ?" I would be furious/crushed/mortified.[/quote]

Exactly. People have no idea.[/quote]

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