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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter has been in a dance program (once a week) all year and they have a recital Saturday. She had s dress rehearsal tonight and freaked out, cried and said she didn't want to do the recital. dH was there so I didn't see it but I've seen here react that way before in a public event or party.  They came home early from the dress rehearsal.

This is not surprising behavior, she has been afraid of too much public attention before.

Not sure whether to go to the recital or not? She liked the class all year but it's events like these that she hates and doesn't seem ready for it. Then again, I want her to at least try to go if she can.

Any advice appreciated.

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This will get flamed to the last ash but if you set a precedence for quitting now she will likely follow that pattern. Focus on talking to her about her commitment to the class and how this is the finish line. No matter what happens (even if she freezes, which at that age is not out of the norm) talk up the performance and how proud you are of her. Build her confidence, not her list of excuses to use when life gets tough.[/quote]

I totally disagree (and can manage to do so without "flaming"). Not being an extrovert is not the same as being a "quitter," PP. Some kids like to perform; other prefer to be stage managers, scenery painters, or set builders. The problem is when the latter kind of kid has pushy, competitive parents who try to force this out of them and turn them into the parents' warped version of a "winner." Some people just dislike limelight. It's OK, PP.[/quote]

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She can absolutely quit after her commitment if fulfilled. Learning to keep your commitments has nothing to do with being an extrovert or introvert. The rule in our home is you can try anything you like, you can quit anything you like, but you see it through.[/quote]

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