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[quote=Anonymous]Since we bought our house last year, my husband's become a different person. He is constantly stressing over something that could be wrong. He'll stay up all night reading about dehumidifiers because he gets a worry that our basement is too humid and can't let it go. We just replaced our flooring and afterward, he worries that it won't be water-resistant enough and spends hours reading more about it and stressing himself out. It's like he's constantly looking for things to worry about and once he finds something he gets obsessive about it.

I have anxiety issues myself, which have been manageable lately, but I see similar issues in him now. He was always the optimist in our relationship and over the past year has become so pessimistic about everything - the house, our careers, family, etc. He's incredibly unpleasant to be around and I don't want to be mad/annoyed at him for a mental health issue but he refuses to acknowledge that anything is wrong. To him, all his anxieties are completely rational because hey, he bought a humidity monitor and the basement is humid and now life is over and why can't I see that? He refuses to go see someone or even bring it up with his PCP. I've told him if he really thinks there's nothing wrong and his worries are completely rational and situational, then just talk through them with a therapist and if they agree that you're fine I'll let it go. But he says that won't work because obviously they aren't a construction expert (neither is he) so how will they know if his worries are rational??

I'm getting hung up on the house a lot because it's an easy example, but these kinds of worries happen about everything. Things are stressful for both of us right now, we have busy careers, our renovating our new house, and trying to start a family. I'm having enough trouble managing my own anxiety issues (with help from professionals) and trying to reduce my use of anxiety medicine. His refusal to seek any kind of help is really driving me crazy and feels like a slight against me since now we're constantly fighting all the time over his anxieties and worries.

We aren't even first time home owners... we moved to the house from a condo that we own and now rent. We renovated the whole condo while living in it and he wasn't plagued by worry or anxiety the whole time. It was stressful, but normal stressful, not find-more-things-to-keep-me-up-at-night stressful. [/quote]

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