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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My AAP child is somewhat jealous of my non-AAP child b/c non-AAP kid has FAR less homework (which means more downtime in the evening).  We have told our non-AAP kid that s/he could be in AAP but s/he doesn't want to b/c it is more work and would involve a school change.  (At one point it truly was a possibility, but isn't anymore given grades/effort).  Bottom line... non-AAP kid does not have a problem being where s/he is b/c we don't imply that one kid is better than the other.

I think you just approach it as needed and speak of each program in positive terms.  i.e. don't speak of AAP as being for "the smart kids" and don't act like non-AAP is inferior.  Speak about them as slightly different and that you are looking for the best fit for your child.  We have said "AAP is for kids who think they want more challenges in school."  (Not every kid wants "more challenges" and that's o.k.).

In your case, it could be a little harder b/c your child may have friends who go over to AAP -- or maybe your child won't care either way.  (I think the parents care more than the kids).  But, in any case, you can say "let's see how you do in Mrs. X's class... and you can still hang out with (AAP friend) after school."[/quote]

This is how we handled it.

We also talked about what mattered more to the younger sibling that the base school offers. Friends for one (very important to him). Compacted matu at the same pace as the center (he LOVES the advanced matu class); not quite as much writing (which he hates). All of his closest friends ended up in the local AAP pull out group (heaven help the poor AAP teacher) and the school offers many of the same activities (although he is disappointed about no science olympiad at the base school).

2nd child is happier being a big fish in a smallpond so for now base is a much better place for him to be. He is proud to be one of the upper kids academically which is a good boost of confidence. That likely wouldn't happen at the center.[/quote]

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