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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are definitely at the more frequent end for non-newlyweds. Also, I don't think you said anything about kids. Do you have any? What ages? My personal experience (and that of my friends, because we talk about this regularly) has been that sex drops off dramatically after kids and born and when they're very young, but then comes back to varying extents as the kids get older, parents are sleeping better, kids are less physically needy, etc. We've never fallen below once a week barring medical issues (e.g., 6 weeks post-partum, unable due to back injury), but there was definitely a stretch where those once a week sessions were primarily mercy sex I was offering my husband and not something I was really into. Now my sex drive is coming back, we're more like twice a week, and hopefully that will improve further. But it wouldn't surprise me if we max out at three times a week on average.[/quote]

Sorry should have mentioned. 4 children 4-15.

Not to the poster I quoted but as for being gross for talking about sex with a girlfriend... do you have any girlfriends? That is pretty normal.[/quote]

I used to talk to my girlfriends about my various boyfriends/dates when I was in college.  By the time I was a Junior/Senior I realized what a breach of trust that was for me to be doing that.  So I stopped. And no that is not something I brag about now.[/quote]

Do you view any discussion of your relationship with a friend to be a breach of trust? If not, why is sex different than, say, your disagreement on how to balance time with your respective families? If so, that sounds like a great recipe for isolation and control, when you have the other person convinced that seeking support outside the relationship is a violation.[/quote]

Huh?  How is telling my BFF that my boyfriend's ding dong is this long and we did XYZ last night X amount of times....NOT a breach of trust?  I understand how fun it is to giggle and let this stuff slip but it is not a grown up and respectful thing to do.  And I decided this well before I ever met my husband.[/quote]

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