Reply to Indecisive DH

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Indecisive DH"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I'm like your DH. When I get stressed and overwhelmed, I shut down. (I'm a DW)

So when sh!t needs to get done and I'm spinning and cant do anything, DH gives me a ToDo list, like written down. 3-5 things that need to get done that day/next couple of days.

I'm usually good about making decisions (and looking at it from every angle). But at times, he needs to be the Decisioner. Let him talk about what different options are, but then you pull the trigger. Then write what needs to be done on the list.

But the key is that we've talked about it how I deal with things. We've talked about how we are going to handle it when I get overwhelmed and he needs to take over temporarily. We understand that in a partnership, sometimes one takes over when the other one isn't able to function.

If you can't talk about it or talking doesn't work, then yes, you may to pretend you are a single parent and do things yourself.

Try not to hold a grudge. I know it's hard. I'm very lucky that DH accepts me the way I am. He focuses on the stuff I'm good at. (And I do the same for about him). His inability to cope will pass. Don't do more damage to you marriage by holding a grudge. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics