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[quote=Anonymous]Long story short, when DH and I started dating, his parents were very unhappy with my race.  I am black, DH is white.  They were mostly polite to my face, but I could tell from the rude, sometimes shocking questions they asked that they had serious reservations and practically expected me to be a gangbanger or something.  And then they found out that I am an ivy league educated doctor with a host of accolades and from a family of rich white collar professionals.  DH's family is blue collar and DH is only college educated.  He does well, but does not make as much as me.  I fell in love with his character. After they realized my "pedigree", they warmed up really quickly.  I accepted them and we have been mostly close, though I haven't quite forgotten that I basically had to be twice as good as any woman that DH had previously brought home in order for them to respect me.

Fast forward, DH's sister is a short, plump woman of very average looks.  She works a low paying deadend job and is waiting to get married so that she can quit working (it's how she was raised).  She has been dating a tall, handsome, dark-skinned Hispanic man for 9 months now.  He is college educated and polite.  DH's family is livid and his parents can't stop talking about how "disappointed" they are.  What gets me though is that her ex was a chronically unemployed white guy who was neither handsome nor charming, and they just loved him.  They keep talking about how this guy doesn't make enough money and isn't accomplished enough and it just smacks of once again requiring the person of color to be WAY better in order to be half as acceptable.  His mother actually said the guy should be a doctor like me in order to be acceptable.  Their daughter is neither smart nor attractive nor interesting, and yet she is the equivalent of a very well educated, handsome doctor of color?

Their discontent with this guy keeps coming up and it is starting to really piss me off.  Recently, the guy asked me if I might know why my in laws are so frosty towards him.  Should I tell?[/quote]

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