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[quote=Anonymous]Guy here.  I get that women liked to be pursued.  But the one I am currently dating seems to take it to the max.  And I am about to the point of backing off.  We have great dates.  Fun, non-stop conversation, and plenty of physical affection.  From the beginning, I have been very assertive.  Called her instead of texting.  Set up all the dates with firm plans.  I've made it very clear that I am going after what I want.  But after dates, I am always the first one to text (the next day) saying how I had a good time, blah, blah.  She faithfully responds back saying she had fun.  And then silence until we start planning the next date.  In the past, not only has the woman sent the initial text or e-mail after a date, but then also have some sort of contact in between dates.  A simple checking in, or maybe passing along a link related to something we had talked about.  A message saying how she is looking forward to seeing me again.  But with this one, nothing.

Normally I would have assumed by now that that she was just uninterested and I would've moved on.  But because our dates are great and fun, I have continued.  But I am considering cancelling our date for this weekend just to regain some kind of upper hand here.  At some point the guy does need some sort of validation from the girl that the chase is worth it.  I did this one other time.  Suggested we do something the next weekend but I never set anything up.  And come Friday evening, here came a text asking if we were still getting together that weekend.  And that's all the validation I needed to know she was interested.  I hate playing games like this (especially at my age), but I am fighting fire with fire.  I am not going to be played the fool by keep chasing her with no end.  For all I know I could be shelling out money for these dates while she is screwing other guys later than night.

My guess is that she is likely dating other people.  I met her on an online dating site, and I am well aware that women get multiple guys contacting them every day.  With that kind of volume, there is always something better around the corner, so why not wait things out, play the field, and enjoy all of these guys chasing me.

So anyway, I am going to cancel this weekend's plans to regain the upper hand and I have no doubt this will get her wondering.  Start seeing other people and put her way on the back burner.  I just refuse to be a pawn and be played the fool.  It's just so confusing because our dates are great and we have great chemistry.

Give me advice.  How long does the guy have to chase the girl before the girl starts to reciprocate a bit?  Initiate contact, suggest dates, etc.  I have never had to go to these lengths before. [/quote]

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